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Melanie Chitwood                                                                                                                           speakers Team Member ; ; ; of Proverbs 31, Women's Ministries

" Therefore a man leaves his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two merge into a single being. " Genesis 2:24 (NIV)

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Reading:

When my husband and I were arranging our first house, Scott wanted a TV in our room. According to my rules, the TVs have no place in the bedrooms. Although he did not understand why I had so much trouble with that situation, Scott kindly agreed to my taste.

When considering "my rule" on the TV, I realized it came from the way I had grown up. We were a family of readers who rarely watched television, so I expected it to be equal in my marriage. When My husband, who loves sports and loves to see them on television, he wanted a TV in our room, I just do not understand why it was so important to him.

Like any married couple discovers, each of us comes into marriage with their own customs and habits from our families of origin. It is likely that this will translate into differences. As you read this maybe you can think of some of these differences.

A couple I know had a conflict for decoration. He wanted to decorate the walls of the room with their trophies and sports memorabilia, such as did the family she grew up. His wife was sure one or two pretty pictures give a touch of warmth and elegance.

I call to mind some other examples: your family ate watching TV while your spouse sat the kitchen table. Your whole family watched football on Thanksgiving Day while the other games he played. Your family was sentimental and kept the little things that brought back memories, but your husband's family was relentless when it came to not let things accumulate.'s Family he did not give much importance to Christmas presents, while that your family all the relatives received at least one gift.

These are just small things. But small things can add up to become a division that threatens the unity of God wants marriage to enjoy. The verse now offers possible solutions to the separation area. Genesis 2:24 tells us that the couple of marriage should be left "to his father and mother."

While the most obvious interpretation of this verse refers to leave them on the physical plane, it also refers to a change of habits and customs.

Once married, our hearts need to change our original families to our new family. The family we create with our spouse becomes central in our relationship. One way to honor this change in our relationship is to embrace new customs, habits and traditions.

How is this in our daily lives? For me, it meant being open to having a TV in our bedroom, along with many other big changes too. The young couple with the conflict of decoration reached an agreement and put the trophies in the living room but it determines decoration.

God will show you what to do and how to make changes. Sometimes this means adapting to the customs of our husband's family. Sometimes traditions means creating completely new to treasure them as our own.

Make changes to the way we do things is key to strengthening our marriage. As we negotiate this change in traditions, customs and habits Let us pray that we experience unity and not division.

Dear God, thank you for my husband and our marriage. Reveal anything I need to leave behind so that you can more to join my husband. Help us find fixes and new traditions to strengthen us as a family. In Jesus name, Amen.

Steps for implementation:

Together, make an inventory of "small" things in their married life . Consider things like family time, outings, meal time, decoration, time with other family and holiday traditions. Take note of where you and your husband need to agree to create their own customs.

Find a balance between your family and your new family home. Talk to your husband in ways that they can honor their families of origin, while simultaneously establishing their marriage as the central relationship.

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Reflections:

Is there something my husband has wanted, even something small, that I have resisted because it is not aligned with the way I was brought up?

The theme of leaving and separation in marriage is really a heart problem. Do I allow the Holy Spirit to examine my heart and reveal the areas where I need to give up my old habits?

verses that give you strength:

Ephesians 2:2, "Llénenme of joy having one mind, one love, in spirit and thought." (NIV)

1 Peter 3: 8, "In short, live in harmony with each other, share joys and sorrows, love as brothers, be compassionate and humble." (NIV)

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